Yanesh Tyagi

"...since my intention is to write something useful for anyone who understands it, it seemed more suitable to me to search after the effectual truth of the matter, rather than its imagined one."
-Niccolo Machiavelli in The Prince, 1532

Thursday, August 13, 2009

Learn to Self Disclose

People feel comfortable in the company of a person whom they know. They cannot be comfortable with someone whom they don’t know.

To make your friends at ease with you, it is necessary that you let them enter in heart. You need to open yourself to them. The more you open to yourself, the more they will be comfortable with you.

Discuss about yourself, your thoughts, hobbies, experience etc. Tell them your wins and failures. Sharing your failures is equally important or they will misinterpret your wins into self-praise. Tell them about the projects where you failed. Tell them about the ideas that did not work.

You can share your experiences, values and goals. You can tell them how you are planning to achieve your goals. Sharing helps in reducing the emotional distance. If you are married, you must have felt this. The more you shared with your wife, the more trust she gain in you. And the vice versa is also true. Even to the people whom you meet at the first time, you can disclose yourself.

I was waiting for my turn for the interview of a software company. Sitting with me was a guy busy with his papers. I started talking to him. Soon we both were taking about the equity markets. I told him that I lost money in the options trading. The result of our talk is that now he is a good friend of mine and I receive valuable tips from him.

But you must know your limits. Don’t tell them your secrets. You should tell only your public facts. If somebody is trying to invade you deeper into your personal matters, it never hurts to say that this is personal issue and I don’t want to discuss it.

Dianna Booher said, “Emotional distance create mental illness. To disclose improves your mental health.”

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हमें अपने देश की आध्यात्मिक शिक्षा और सभी प्रकार की एहिक शिक्षा अपने हाथ मे लेनी होगी और उस शिक्षा मे भारतीय शिक्षा की सनातन गति स्थिर रखनी होगी। साथ ही सनातन प्रणाली को यथा संभव ग्रहण करना होगा। - स्वामी विवेकानन्द

परिस्थिति कैसी है, इस पर कुछ भी निर्भर नहीं करता। हम परिस्थिति को कैसे लेते हैं इस पर सब कुछ निर्भर करता है। - ओशो

People go along with the fellow who believes what he says. Say it with life.Put vitality into your speaking. ... And when you put life into your talk, you automatically put more life into you." - David J. Scahwartz (From The Magic Of Thinking Big)

संपूर्ण प्रतिबद्धता का अर्थ केवल कडी मेहनत नहीं है। इसमें पुर्णरूप से शामिल होने का पक्ष बहुत महत्वपुर्ण है। ... जो लोग अपने पेशे मे शीर्ष पर पहुंचना चाहते हैं, उनके भीतर पुर्ण वचनबद्धता का मूलभूत गुण होना बहुत ज़रुरी है। पूरी क्षमता के साथ काम करने की इच्छा के बाद मुश्किल से ही कोई इच्छा जन्म ले पाती है। ... शीर्ष पर पहुंचने के लिये दृढ इच्छा शक्ति जरुरी होती है, चाहे वह माउंट एवरेस्ट हो या आपके कार्यक्षेत्र का शीर्ष। हर व्यक्ति अलग - अलग ऊर्जा लेकर जन्मा है और जो सबसे पहले प्रयास करेगा और अपनी ऊर्जा का इस्तेमाल करेगा, वही सबसे जल्दी अपने जीवन को सुव्यवस्थित कर पायेगा। - डा. ए. पी. जे. अब्दुल कलाम, राष्ट्रपति, भारत सरकार (अग्नि की उड़ान से) (From Hindi translation of his autobiography, Wings of Fire)

हमें रचनात्मक सुझाव देने चाहिये। यह काम बुरा हुआ इसकी उतनी अधिक व्याखया करने की ज़रुरत नहीं है जितनी कि सुधार के लिये जो किया जा सकता है उसका सुझाव देने की। सुझाव रचनात्मक होते हैं। उनसे दिशा मिलती है और लाभ होता है। किन्तु भर्त्सना से मन छोटा होता है। तिरस्कार के फलस्वरुप द्वेषभाव की खाई चौड़ी होने के अतिरिक्त और कोई प्रयोजन सिद्ध नहीं होता। गलती से होने वाली हानी और सुधार का तरीका अपनाने का लाभ तुलनात्मक रीति से समझाया जा सकता है। - पं० श्रीराम शर्मा आचार्य ('मन की प्रचण्ड शक्ति' से)

Between Stimulus and response, there is a space. In that space lies our freedom and power to choose our response. In our response kids our growth and happiness. - Stephen R. Covey (From 7 Habits of Highly Effective People)

Seek ye first the kingdom of God, than all shall be added unto you. - anonymous

The mind is a wonderful servent but a terrible master. -Robin Sharma (From The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari) 

When you are inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project, all of your thoughts break their bonds: your mind transcends kimitations, your consciousness expands in every direction and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world. Dormant forces, faculties and talents becomes alive and you discover yourself to be a greater person than you ever dreamed yourself be. -Robin Sharma (From The Monk Who Sold His Ferrari) 

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